Gun Control & The Myth Of Falling In Love

April 10, 2013


Have you ever heard of the phrase ‘falling in love’? I have. Many people will say that they ‘fell in love’ with someone, or they ‘fell out of love’ with someone. This is a ridiculous phrase, however. Love is not something that you fall ‘in’ or ‘out’ of. Love simply is. Love is a constant reality because God is a constant reality. God is love.

When people say that they fell ‘into love’, or fell ‘out of love’, they really mean to say something quite different. I’d like to propose that we change this phrase to mean something a bit more accurate. Instead of saying that we fell into, or out of, ‘love’, let’s say this:

We fell into, or out of, ‘delight’.

Gun Control

As you may know, our society is in the midst of a heated debate concerning guns. One side wants more restrictions on the ability of people to purchase and operate firearms in order to cut back on gun violence, and the other side opposes these restrictions. Many who oppose these tighter restrictions site history as their concern. In the past, when governments of other countries have sought to end private gun ownership, it usually began incrementally with tighter gun restrictions until most weapons were eventually banned outright. According to gun control opponents, this allowed tyrannical governments to take away the freedoms of their societies. With that said, I’d like to jump into the discussion about gun control.

  • There actually is a conspiracy underway to take away your most powerful and feared weapon.
  • If you lose this powerful weapon, you will live as a slave.
  • If you lose this weapon, you will starve to death.
  • If you lose this weapon, you will lose the essence of life.
  • If you lose this weapon, you will become frustrated and hopeless.


The Secret Weapon of ‘Delight’

Do you remember when you first fell in love…I mean, do you remember when you first fell into ‘delight‘? Think about it. Something awoke inside of you. The little things that used to bother you no longer bothered you. Your mind and thoughts began to be continually turned toward the delight that you saw in another person. This ‘delight’ put a spring in your step. This ‘delight’ caused you to become creative & more expressive. Songs on the radio and movies you watched made you think of this person in whom you were ‘delighted’.

The relationship between you and the person with whom you were delighted had a seemingly unbreakable bond. You could overlook their faults. As a matter of fact, you were mysteriously blind to most of their faults that others pointed out to you. You noticed the little things that made them beautifully unique, and you marveled in wonder at them. Nothing could put a wedge between you and the person you were ‘delighting’ in.

Then a tragedy occurred.

Somewhere along the way, you lost sight of your secret weapon. Someone seemed to ‘turn the light off’ and your delight was gone. Your eyes were opened to another realm. You began to see issues and problems. You unknowingly began to become frustrated with your perception of people and situations, so you began trying to correct and change them. This didn’t work. You lost hope. Life began to become heavy again as you carried the chains of a slave. You looked for an escape.

Unfortunately, this needless scenario plays out repeatedly because we lose sight of the secret weapon of ‘delight’. Although we have pictures of delight in the world’s system, true delight is found only in Christ. Delight is literally our ‘meal ticket’ in the kingdom of God, and this is why a conspiracy is underway to take this secret weapon away from you by distracting you from it.

The truth is, we have been hardwired for love. Love is our food & drink. Love is the air we breathe. Without love, we’ll die. True transformation occurs when we ‘see’ love. (2 Cor. 3:18)

Delight’ is our ability to see love.

We have come to know that love is personified in the person of Jesus Christ. Thankfully, we have been placed into this person who is love. In Christ, we have been given the proper tools to recognize love. This tool (weapon) is ‘delight’.

Delight’ is our new eyes in Christ.

For those who desire to commune with others in a shared life community (New Testament church), delight is essential for a couple of reasons.

1. ‘Delight’ transcends conflict.

There are times that my wife and I have strong disagreements. Many times during these arguments, something strange and supernatural will occur in the midst of my anger and frustration. I will catch a glimpse of her beauty. At the most inopportune of times, I begin to delight in her. Suddenly, the issue we have been fighting about begins to seem like a second grade playground dispute. It’s funny how delight can transcend conflict even when the conflict never gets resolved ‘practically’.

2. ‘Delight’ is the key to intimacy.

A shared life community (ekklesia) is made up of intimate relationships. My time of being immersed into this kind of a community has taught me something profound. We have truly been given the ability to delight in our brothers and sisters! When we look at our brothers and sisters through the lens of ‘delight’, we begin to see and partake of love (Christ). This love transforms us. Delighting in our brothers and sisters allows us to see and intimately interact with the life of Christ within them. We desire to commune with those we ‘delight’ in.

Did you know that every time you see a brother or sister, you have the ability to delight in them? Delight is our supernatural choice that cannot be taken from us.

Did you know that delighting in another is not dependent on anything the other may or may not do?

Did you know that no situation that can occur to you in life is dark enough to keep you from ‘delighting’ in the light that shines in and through the darkness? (John 1:5)

If you notice your mind being preoccupied, a spring in your step, a message of love in each song or film you watch, and a strong desire to be with your brothers and sisters, don’t be alarmed. You are simply reclaiming the secret weapon of delight.

In delight,

Jamal Jivanjee

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24 responses to Gun Control & The Myth Of Falling In Love

  1. Cool post! It resonates. And of course our ability to delight in our brothers and sisters begins by actively delighting in the Lord (a la Psalm 37:4). I too often fall into the trap of believing the right things about Him, thinking about Him, but not spending time in His presence and just delighting in him. Thanks for the reminder.

  2. I love it.

    I have always said that “I love you” came before “I like you” in my relationship with my husband-to-be. I was blessed by God with the ability to spend time getting to know him before I even knew I would get to spend the rest of my life with him. He had become a best friend and a brother to me before I even considered dating him, so we were already comfortable in our love for each other by the time that I professed my newfound “like” for him.

    For this reason, even through our arguments we are rooted in our love and respect for each other. To use your terms.. even at times when we are not necessarily “delighting” in each other, there is never a question of whether or not we still LOVE each other.

    This is an important message that many couples- married or not -need to hear. I believe that marriages will be saved by a better understanding of this.

    Keep writing!

    • Jamal Jivanjee April 10, 2013 at 2:37 pm


      Thanks for reading and sharing. Great comment. I also hope that many communities of believers are kept intact because of this ‘secret weapon’ as well:)

  3. Yes! Love is a weapon of holy war. I have found the same things you described. I want to say, “I struck gold!” But it seems more fitting to say, “Gold struck me!” What you wrote about here is huge…may He renew the minds of His people with it and create more intimate fellowship among us all.

    As my dear friend said when she and her significant other began to be delighted in one another —

    “Grace and romance are the same!”

    Thanks brother. 🙂

  4. kenneth dawson April 10, 2013 at 2:53 pm

    man that is a great post–I printed a copy of it so I could meditate over it–thanks

  5. This is a truly delightful post bro! The thought of “delighting to shift our perspective” is really powerful, and ministered to Kris and I today. Thx so much!

  6. David Breakeronenine Carothers April 10, 2013 at 4:06 pm

    Delightful……amen. I’m thinking of all the names on products, companies and expressions that I’ve heard over the years with delight in them, being a dairy man Dairy Delight comes to mind quickly lol. We can all think of many I’m sure. Ps. 37:4 also comes to mind….”Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of you heart.” Thank you Jamal.

  7. delight, can only be found ‘in’ and sustained by ‘De’ Light of Jesus Christ. When His Light/Life is our source we find peace, contentment, and beauty ‘in’ us and ‘in’ one another

    This peace surpasses ‘our’ understanding, and we begin to ‘see’ that we are children of light.

    “For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light” ~ Paul

    We have grace for those who currently do not ‘see’ because we can remember the time we were devoid of light.

    Once again I love you deeply my brother!

  8. This is my Son in whom I delight( am well pleased). How blessed are we, how privileged, to have been accepted in the Beloved and have been placed in Him. Father delights in us, because we have found our rest in the Son of His Love. Our delight in the Lord and one another is just our heart response of His heart satisfaction in us. Because He delights in us, in the Son who indwells us, we delight back with the same satisfaction that comes from Him. This is the glorious reality found only in Him.
    When The Lord first lead me to the fellowship of the brothers and sisters that I’m part of, I used to drive to our Saturday night meetings one hour going and one hour coming back home, and the joy of meeting Christ, so babbling in my spirit, I used to sing Celine Dion’s song ” I drove all night to come to You, oh it is alright…” May we never take for granted and lose the sense of wonder of the gift of delight we together have in Him! Thanks Jamal for this delight 🙂

    • Jamal Jivanjee April 12, 2013 at 3:48 pm


      Thanks for your comment. I love Celine Dion, and I love that song! I think we have a lot in common, sister. It must be the shared life we have in Him:)

  9. Its awesome that in the midst of conflict, you will glimpse your wife and delight in her. Thats truly amazing!

  10. Thank you my brother. This reminder was very timely for me personally this year, specifically today. I am truly blessed to be IN CHRIST and even more so to even in part understand more fully what that means.

  11. Thank you for this post brother! This is profound. Not just the substance but the fact thst you tied together love and guns. I’m looking forward to delighting in my spouse, bros, sistas, as a practice. Thank you David for the Psalm and thank you Brittany for the tying it together with the quote.

    I was thinking of my wife last night as the light in my life. It reminded me of this song. She told me this was her parents wedding song.

    You Light Up My Life by Debbie Boone

  12. Good analogy of ” weapon” Brother.

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