My European Trip…Love & Relationships…A New Season

July 2, 2013

This is my first post back after a two month blogging hiatus, and I’m looking forward to easing back into the blogosphere. I’d like today’s post to stay a bit light, so I’ll simply share three snippets with you. The first snippet will be about my trip to Europe. In the second snippet, I’ll share some general thoughts about the difference between loving someone, and having a relationship with someone. In the third snippet, I’ll share a tiny bit about a new season that I’m entering into.


My European Trip

The past two months I spent in Europe was one of the greatest gifts of my life. I was hosted by a wonderful group of saints that received and welcomed me as one of their own. Being far from home opened my eyes to the gift of being received. It is a powerful expression of Christ, and it was an eye opening gift to be on the receiving end of that gift.

My time in Europe was comprised of sharing life with the brothers and sisters there, and also further developing my French. Both endeavors changed my life, and I’m looking forward to sharing some of these insights with you over the next several weeks. My first post about this will be on Friday. I hope you’ll tune in. That’s about all I’m going to say about this today:)


Love or Relationship

Recently, I’ve been dwelling on the difference between loving someone, and having a relationship with someone. I think there is some confusion out there about this, so I wanted to share what I have discovered about this subject. I have discovered that love is a person (Christ) who has made His dwelling in the deepest part of our being. Because of this, we have a deep reservoir on the inside of us from which to give His life to others. To love someone is to give this life to them. The good news is this…you can (and should) love everyone!

Loving someone is quite different from having a relationship with someone, however. We love lots of people, but having real authentic relationship with others is rare for a variety of reasons. This is truly unfortunate. Loving another requires nothing from them, but to have a relationship with another does indeed require something from them.


If a person is not able to *reciprocate* (share) this life (love) back with you, there will be no relationship. Unfortunately, many are suffering from a lack of real relationships. I am convinced the Lord desires to remedy this through the building of His house. His house is built through relationship.

When sin entered into humanity, many things were used to keep people divided from one another. Things like nationality, economic status, & sex (male & female). Astoundingly, the New Testament describes that these natural divisions are no longer divisions in Christ! (Gal. 3:28)

Unfortunately, these divisions remain divisions for many in Christ because of a lack of living from the place (spirit) where these divisions are overcome. I’m convinced that a lack of understanding regarding the difference between soul / spirit is the main culprit assaulting our relationships. For many, relationships are avoided out of fear. These ‘divisions’ have been a way of life for us, and living beyond them is truly daunting.

For others, relationships are corrupted when an attempt to relate to others outside of these distinctions is done through our natural life. Relating to others in a Galatians 3:28 manner is only possible in the Spirit. Our natural life is simply not capable. Any attempt to relate to others in a Gal. 3:28 manner by our natural life is a recipe for disaster. It is only the Spirit that enables us to reciprocate (share) true love back to others.

The Lord loves everyone, but He only has a relationship with a few for this very reason. Thankfully, you have been given a life on the inside that now enables you to *reciprocate* life (love) back to Him. We *reciprocate* this love back to Him when we *reciprocate* (share) this love with our brothers and sisters. It is a beautiful exchange indeed. I could share more about this, but that will have to wait for another day.


A New Season

As I mentioned, I am entering into a new season in my life. I plan to share more of the specifics of this new season with you in the weeks ahead. I truly sense the Lord opening the doors to something exciting. I’m ready to move forward. In the meantime, I could use your help with something.

I’m looking for people who have time to devote to a new endeavor that I am working on. I am looking for people who not only have time, but also have some experience working in either journalism, television production, or professional film production. If this applies to you, or someone you know, please send me a private email:

Talk to you on Friday,

Jamal Jivanjee


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13 responses to My European Trip…Love & Relationships…A New Season

  1. Love loves to express Love, and is always patient, kind, and full of grace and truth. I sense big days are ahead bro, Love will show ‘The Way”.

  2. Glad you’re back and blogging again! Looking forward to hearing more…

  3. Thanks for those thoughts, Jamal!

    Henri Nouwen speaks implicitly about reciprocity being a key component of a relationship when he says, “in the context of hospitality, guest and host can reveal their most precious gifts and bring new life to each other.” Reciprocity implies mutuality, and Nouwen notes, “nobody will show his most precious talent to those whom he fears.”

    • Jamal Jivanjee July 2, 2013 at 5:26 pm


      Thanks for reading brother. This is a very powerful quote from Henri Nouwen. This statement sums up so much of my heart here. Thank you.

    • beautiful statement:

      “nobody will show his most precious talent to those whom he fears.” ~ Henry Nouwen

      “perfect Love cast out fear”

  4. Welcome back, Jamal! Like where you are going with this!

  5. accueillez le frère de famille ! Welcome Home Brother. So glad you had such a rich experience, please share as you can. You are spot on about relationships. And how wrong division is, this should not be. Let’s build the foundation of any relationships we have on Christ!

  6. Welcome back bro. I am looking forward to hearing more.

  7. Amen bro. Relationships are about giving & receiving, mutual submission, and esteeming others over ourselves.

    And in my limited experience, Christ’s life is the only one that can bring this to pass, into a normal, free-flowing relational existence, on every level.

  8. Right on bro! Loving people according the the Lord’s life in us is a much more difficult and much more rewarding effort than simply being in relationship. Knowing and being known is at the heart of God’s dwelling. Can’t wait to hear more about the things He’s showing you.

    Much Love.

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