The Maturation of Love & A Beautiful Reconciliation

August 29, 2013

Last weekend, my wife and I traveled back to our home town to attend the wedding of a couple of people whom we have known for many years.  I made a few life altering observations during the day that I’d like to share with you in today’s post.

Out of Thin Air?

Love takes time.  It may sound cliche, but it’s very true.  I had the privilege of knowing both the bride and groom at this wedding.  For years, this bride and groom were involved in a similar circle of friends.  Many of their friends around them had already gotten married in previous years, and I’m sure they both wondered if that day would ever come for them.  

Personally speaking, I never imagined these two people getting married to one another.  It never crossed my mind because I was not aware of any external signs between them that pointed toward their impending matrimony.  Their love and marriage seemed to appear out of thin air.  I was wrong, however.  Over the years, something was happening to them internally that could not be seen by others, including themselves. 

They were being prepared for one another independent of their own effort.  

At just the right time, the Lord opened their eyes to one another in a new way.  They clearly saw the story of love that had been unfolding all around them.  What was once unthinkable, was now obvious to them.  They were being joined together by love.

As the bride and groom stood in front of the crowd assembled to celebrate their special day, two thoughts kept running through my head about them.  

The groom was picky.

Like the prince in Cinderella, there was a specific girl that he was looking for.  When he saw her, he would know it.  He would not settle for any other, and he is certainly not in a hurry.  He would take his time to find her.  Finally, this groom found his Cinderella.    

Christ is the same way.  

My friend (the groom) is like Christ.  He has perfectly received Christ’s righteousness as his new nature.  Because of this, only a perfect bride will do for him.  That brings me to the other thought I had as I observed them on their wedding day.  

The bride has been prepared.  

Although she had wanted to be married much earlier, the timing of their union was perfect.  She had been perfectly prepared for this day.  She is perfect.    

We are the same way. 

My friend (the bride) is like us.  Her previous relationships were but shadows, increasing her longing for this special day with her one true love.  We too have been prepared for this union with our bridegroom (Christ), and it has come at just the right time.  We have been meticulously prepared.  

Now, I know that some of you are thinking that we are still a work in progress.  You might think that we are not yet perfect or prepared.  Some of you may even be thinking that this special wedding day for which we have been prepared is still far off in a future realm somewhere.  If you think that, you are right.  

There is good news, however.  

That future heavenly day is a present tense reality in Christ.  In Christ, the future has broken into the present.  We live from that day right now! 

A Reconciliation For The Ages

In addition to my friends getting married that day, something else incredible happened.  A monumental reconciliation occurred.  This reconciliation meant the world to me.  My words here cannot fully communicate the enormity of this miracle.  

Attending this wedding were some dear, precious, holy people whom I have loved very much.  Unfortunately, hurt and differences have divided us from one another over the years.  Some of these differences have seemed insurmountable.  I even thought some of these relationships were dead & buried.

This wedding, however, showed me that true love cannot be defeated.  

Throughout the evening during the wedding reception, I spent time simply being with a couple of these precious saints.  As we spent time together, I noticed something profound.  All the offense of the previous years were gone as if it had never occurred! As a matter of fact, the love I experienced for them actually seemed richer and more developed than in previous years.  Like wine, this internal love had been maturing with time.  There is no natural explanation for this; only a supernatural one.    

Like wine, you cannot tell of its richness and depth simply by looking at it externally.  It must be tasted & consumed.  As I tasted Christ’s love in me and our reconciled friends that evening, I realized that true love has staying power.

Love lasts longer than offense & misunderstanding.

Love lasts longer than theological differences.  

Love lasts longer than fear. 

God is love.

Christ is love personified.

During the wedding ceremony, there was a banner from Ecclesiastes 3:11  hanging over the head of the bride and groom that said: 

He has made everything beautiful in its time.

I believed this before the wedding, but I believe this even more now.  It took the unlikely love of a bride & groom at a wedding to reconcile separated brothers and sisters to one another.  Could that wedding day last weekend be a shadow of something greater?  I think so, and we’re in for quite a treat.


Jamal Jivanjee      

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13 responses to The Maturation of Love & A Beautiful Reconciliation

  1. to know Love is to be reconciled to beauty, true beauty, and to be given new ‘eyes’.the ‘eyes’ of Love, and we find this to be true from The One who is Faithful and True.

    “He has made everything beautiful in its time.”

    beautiful post my brother, beautiful just like you are

  2. Shelby Shock-Marsh August 29, 2013 at 2:31 pm

    Reconciliation, nothing sweeter. A wonderful picture of what is to come! Thanks, Jamal. You have impeccable timing.

  3. Thank you for your blog Jamal. You took me on a journey of my life as it was then. When I met my husband, he was wonderful and swept me off my feet. What happened to him. Like some people say, “love is blind but marriage sure opens the eyes.” After 48 yrs. of marriage to the same husband, I see that it was suppose to be that way. Marriage is suppose to open our eyes, it is not the movies. Once we both began to realize that God had joined us together for life, we began to work in unity to allow God to love us by His Spirit’s life within us. Love was more than fantasy. It was the real life of God being worked out through us to allow Jesus to be love, How we settled our emotions in the love of God and how satisfying He has been over the years. It is true love to know that I have my husbands heart and he has my heart when we both have the heart of Jesus. How do the unsaved do it? “Trust in Him with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path.” Prov. 3:5-6

    • Mary,

      Thanks for your comment. This statement from your comment really jumped out at me:

      “It is true love to know that I have my husbands heart and he has my heart when we both have the heart of Jesus…”

      Having a shared heart (Christ) and a shared life (Christ), is the highest form of intimacy.

  4. Thx Jamal! I love beautiful beginnings, and stronger endings even more!

    This post made me think of Eph 1:14 where Paul speaks of our “in Christness” as the “guarantee” (deposit/earnest-money) unto the full possession “at the fullness of times”. This combined with the Lord’s prayer (your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven >> i.e. manifesting His unseen kingdom in there here and now, by living through Him in this lifetime), encourages me that the increadible glories that we have the priviledge to experience *in Christ* in our marriage, family, jobs, church-life, NOW; are still just the down-payment sized portion of the unimaginable glories yet to come.

    Thank you Jesus for the overwhelming experience of enjoying being in You in this age, but this life is difficult and full of trials; and so praise you even more for the time when You become all in all.

  5. This is so rich brother. Two verses that the Lord led me to after reading this was this:

    The Pharisees asked Jesus when the kingdom of God would come. He answered them, “People can’t observe the coming of the kingdom of God. They can’t say, ‘Here it is!’ or ‘There it is!’ You see, the kingdom of God is within you.”

    “I’m giving you a new commandment: Love each other in the same way that I have loved you. Everyone will know that you are my disciples because of your love for each other.”

    How freeing to know that we have obtained the kingdom NOW! We don’t have to wait. Even more freeing is that it is His love that enables us to live in this glorious reality of His kingdom that is today eternity. There is a shift…awakening, that has taken place in the bride of Christ about how to love like God. The good news is that we don’t have to do a thing to come into this greater reality because He will have His way 🙂 avec tout mon amour frère <3

  6. Excellent word! Your blog answered a question for me. When will all of the differences well meaning Christ followers have with one another be forever put away? Now, if some of us could move forward and get started now. Thanks!

  7. God’s reconciliation is a wonderful, beautiful thing! We also had some friendships from years ago that we thought were dead and buried because of hurts and offenses. One lady who was deeply wounded and even damaged by the spiritual abuse we didn’t recognize at the time, hated all of us. Being in a small town, we were all polite when we saw each other, but it went no further.

    One of these couples who were former friends had decided to step out into organic church after reading Frank Viola’s “Pagan Christianity” and “Reimagining Church”. The wife heard that I had left our church, and she invited me to gather with them. Although I was initially very leery, when I met with them I knew immediately that was where God had been leading me. We spent the first few weeks being reconciled. That was ~ 3 1/2 years ago. Our little group of 3 has grown to 8-10 that meet regularly, and that couple has become very dear friends. In fact, I have learned to love them in a richer and deeper way than I ever expected.

    And remember the lady who hated all of us? That couple and I reached out to her when we came back in contact with her. Our Father had also been preparing her for reconciliation, and she even eventually became a part of our group. The incredible love of Christ being spread abroad by His Holy Spirit!

  8. Brittany DiSalvo August 30, 2013 at 3:10 pm

    This became richer every time I read it. 🙂

    I have nothing to add except for:

    1. Wow.

    2. Yes!

    3. That’s beautiful.

    4. Thank you. 🙂

  9. David Breakeronenine Carothers September 4, 2013 at 1:10 am

    That’s the power of love no doubt, thanks for sharing something so personal.

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