For most people, communicating love involves saying the infamous three word phrase that we’re all familiar with… I love you. My mother once told me that she heard her father say I love you once or twice in her entire life. As a result, that phrase is quite significant when she hears it. Still for others, I love you is used more often, such as when a person is going home from a gathering and farewells are exchanged. Still other times, these three words are used before hanging up in a phone conversation, or before spouses go to sleep. For many, that phrase has become a normal expression in everyday conversation.
For me personally, I always thought the three word phrase I Love You adequately communicated love until this past week. Something occurred, however, that changed my thinking about this three word phrase.
I heard a NEW five word phrase communicate love to me in a way that I love you never has been able to!
As a matter of fact, when I heard this new phrase, it deeply impacted me. I have not been the same since. I can’t get the phrase out of my mind. It’s stuck on repeat in my mind. In today’s post, I’d like to share this new, five word, life altering phrase with you.
Before I tell you about this stunning new five word phrase, however, I need to vent to you about something. I’ve discovered that I actually have an issue with the old three word phrase I love you. In all honesty, it’s really too ambiguous for my liking after hearing this new and improved five word phrase. I have many people in my life who regularly tell me that they love me, but this new five word phrase can only be spoken to me by a few because of how specific it is.
It was in a recent conversation on the phone with a friend that this new five word phrase was first spoken to me. This five word phrase spoke incredibly loud into my spirit. As a matter of fact, it was the most loud, yet gentle, five words that I have ever heard. It communicated more love than the words I love you could ever communicate. These five honest words spoken by my friend expressed the heart of Christ perfectly. In fact, I cannot remember ever hearing anything so revealing and honest from a friend before. Here are the five words that were spoken to me in that phone call that have brought the love of Christ into a much more clear and crisp focus for me:
I want to know you.
Has anyone ever said that to you before? The life behind those words surprised & stunned me. When I heard those words from my friend, I knew who was really speaking. It was my Lord. My friend didn’t tell me this out of obligation, but a true God given desire. The nature of love is to know its object. Christ doesn’t just love us in theory, rather, He desires to know us in real space and time by incarnating His love in us for one another.
The opposite of rejection is when another desires to know you.
For me, years of rejection (that I never knew I had been walking in) were illuminated and healed in the exact moment that my friend spoke those five words to me. It’s difficult to adequately put the significance of it into words. Brothers and sisters, I would like to encourage you with something today.
There is one who strongly desires to deeply know you. You are not rejected.
The one who deeply desires to know you will not place a demand on you to be known, however. He does not try to force His way. His love is patient yet persistent. His desire to know you is not affected by your response. There are no strings attached. He doesn’t need to use the manipulation and strings that we’re all too familiar with in other relationships. His kind of love is able to soften and win over even the most damaged and hardened of hearts. I should know:)
I want to know you,