The Five Most Loving Words I Have Ever Heard!

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September 20, 2013

For most people, communicating love involves saying the infamous three word phrase that we’re all familiar with… I love you.  My mother once told me that she heard her father say I love you once or twice in her entire life.  As a result, that phrase is quite significant when she hears it.  Still for others, I love you is used more often, such as when a person is going home from a gathering and farewells are exchanged.  Still other times, these three words are used before hanging up in a phone conversation, or before spouses go to sleep.  For many, that phrase has become a normal expression in everyday conversation.  

For me personally, I always thought the three word phrase I Love You adequately communicated love until this past week.  Something occurred, however, that changed my thinking about this three word phrase.  

I heard a NEW five word phrase communicate love to me in a way that I love you never has been able to!  

As a matter of fact, when I heard this new phrase, it deeply impacted me.  I have not been the same since.  I can’t get the phrase out of my mind.  It’s stuck on repeat in my mind.  In today’s post, I’d like to share this new, five word, life altering phrase with you.

Before I tell you about this stunning new five word phrase, however, I need to vent to you about something.  I’ve discovered that I actually have an issue with the old three word phrase I love you.  In all honesty, it’s really too ambiguous for my liking after hearing this new and improved five word phrase.  I have many people in my life who regularly tell me that they love me, but this new five word phrase can only be spoken to me by a few because of how specific it is.    

It was in a recent conversation on the phone with a friend that this new five word phrase was first spoken to me.  This five word phrase spoke incredibly loud into my spirit.  As a matter of fact, it was the most loud, yet gentle, five words that I have ever heard.  It communicated more love than the words I love you could ever communicate.  These five honest words spoken by my friend expressed the heart of Christ perfectly.  In fact, I cannot remember ever hearing anything so revealing and honest from a friend before.  Here are the five words that were spoken to me in that phone call that have brought the love of Christ into a much more clear and crisp focus for me:

I want to know you.  

Has anyone ever said that to you before? The life behind those words surprised & stunned me.  When I heard those words from my friend, I knew who was really speaking.  It was my Lord.  My friend didn’t tell me this out of obligation, but a true God given desire.  The nature of love is to know its object.  Christ doesn’t just love us in theory, rather, He desires to know us in real space and time by incarnating His love in us for one another.  

The opposite of rejection is when another desires to know you.  

For me, years of rejection (that I never knew I had been walking in) were illuminated and healed in the exact moment that my friend spoke those five words to me.  It’s difficult to adequately put the significance of it into words.  Brothers and sisters, I would like to encourage you with something today.  

There is one who strongly desires to deeply know you.  You are not rejected.

The one who deeply desires to know you will not place a demand on you to be known, however.  He does not try to force His way.  His love is patient yet persistent.  His desire to know you is not affected by your response.  There are no strings attached.  He doesn’t need to use the manipulation and strings that we’re all too familiar with in other relationships.  His kind of love is able to soften and win over even the most damaged and hardened of hearts.  I should know:)

I want to know you,

Jamal Jivanjee  

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19 responses to The Five Most Loving Words I Have Ever Heard!

  1. Beautiful Jamal. But doesn’t He already know us? How does that fit? Could you explain?

    • That’s a great question Hope. I have often wondered the same thing when I read the words of Jesus from Matthew 7:23 when He says to those people “…I never knew you.” How can an all knowing God not ‘know’ someone?

      Then it hit me…the ‘knowledge’ He is speaking of is not informational / academic knowledge, but intimate relational knowledge that comes with relationship. There is giving and receiving involved. I hope that makes sense.

  2. I want you to know that I know your Love, and I know that you know

  3. The Father has delivered and drawn us to Himself out of the control and the dominion of darkness and has transferred us into the kingdom of the Son of His love… ~ Paul

  4. Mary Ellen Robinson September 20, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    ‘I want to know you’. These are incredible words that build up worth in a person. I once heard these words spoken to me from a person I had just met. We have built a deep and abiding friendship that goes way beyond the years of how long we have known one another. We are ‘bosom friends’ (from Anne of Green Gables).

  5. Brother this one of my favorite blogs! These words “I want to know you” run to the deepest areas of our longings that can only be quenched by our Christ in and with each other. I was just thinking how inadequate the word love can be. It gets tossed around so much. For example….I love Indian food…I love my dog…I love my daughter. I would hope that my love for Samara is greater than my love for Indian food ;) I want to KNOW Samara!!!

    Nothing thrills me more than meeting brothers and sisters that are on a journey of knowing each other deeply. Je tiens à vous mon frère savoir <3

  6. I love that answer you gave to hope–knowledge is not informational (epistemological)–its relational in intimacy (ontological)–I too consider your blog as a favorite.

  7. A beautiful sight, Jamal.

    I have a small thought. The Hebrew word “yada” in our English is as “to know.” But, to know you is far beyond our English translated word definition.

    “The man KNEW EVE ~ “This is eternal life, that they may KNOW You, the only true God, AND Jesus Christ whom You have sent.” ~ “Christ in us” ~ “So also is Christ” . . .

    The sight of “To know you” in the ancient Hebrew language is Life’s relationship in Oneness. CHRIST our Life is our close, experiential, livingly and lovingly personal and profoundly intimate relationship in one another. To know “of” is the wrong tree, to know “you” is eternal Life:)

  8. WOW !
    Kat hit on my thought about the level of intimacy that God desires when He states that so and so KNEW so and so as opposed to so and so LAID with so and so.
    Big difference and I believe God is unfolding this more and more lately and will continue to.
    I love the way our God makes love !

    Jamal I have 5 heart felt words for you.

    The Lord Delights in you ! :-D

    • To “know” Him in and through one another is All, is Life, is Everything. To “know” us was worth torture and the cross to Him. What is it worth to us to know Him? The cross? Death? Yes, even so. “To know Him” forever, without end. Christ in us, our Life.

  9. I really like Kat’s Hebrew word “Yada” as it is used in the scriptures in Gen. 4:1 which is the scripture she used. It is used as a physical sexual experience of marriage fueled by the yada of the oneness of God and man. In Eph. 5: 29-32 it says, “For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body , of His flesh and of His bones. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” THIS IS A GREAT MYSTERY but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
    Even though they are speaking about marriage it’s not the main topic, but the main topic is Christ and His church. We are to know Christ and from this union produce His life of love toward others. This love is expressed as “yada” to know you is to love you.

  10. I agree. I also have an issue with the phrase, ‘I love you.’ It is on everyone’s tongue, and has no more meaning in most cases than, ‘Good Morning.’

    ‘I want to know you,’ implies a self-revelation as well as wanting to know one. I heard another phrase with seven words that speaks more than, ‘I love you.’ It it, “I love you, and I also like you.” That also speaks from the heart.

  11. Jamal,

    I really like this too. And is not just because of the over use of the “I love you” word, but loving really means knowing. To love The Lord means to really know Him, and to know Him means to really love Him.
    I want to be known. That’s the Lord’s heart cry to His Bride.
    And it is in knowing Him that we live, it is in knowing Him that we are known ourselves.
    As already pointed out, we can know about Him, do things for Him, relate superficially to Him, and miss Him entirely.
    ” I never knew you” – you were not interested in Me, the stuff supposedly for Me, was in fact for you, for your profit, for self. And loves’ object is the other not self.
    Knowing academically/mentally/ intelectually and knowing relationally/experientially are to different worlds. While the first does not require death to self (the cross) the other is impossible without it. And where there is no cross, there is no Life, nor Love, is not Christ.
    What compelled Paul at the end of his life to pray “that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection”? Love for His Lord.

  12. In my life and beyond anything I could imagine, or begin to fathom Love pierced my heart, and my life began to change. Love and I began this beautiful dance together often called grace. As Love deepened ‘in’ me I slowly began to ‘see’ the beauty of Loves expression in others. Loves ‘eyes’ gave me the ability to treasure the Treasure ‘in’ others. To value, appreciate, and Love through Loves Love. My feeble words cannot express the depth or magnitude of how this has changed me, I can only say,,,Love Loves to Love.

    Love is the Kingdom, and The Kingdom is Love, for it is our Fathers great pleasure and deep desire for us to ‘see’ and know Love, and to ‘see’ and know this Love ‘in’ one another.

    In this I can truly say…I desire to know you, for in doing so, I will better see Love Himself.

    Jesus Christ is The Ambassador, Personification, and the Way of Love, and ‘in’ Him we move and find our being.

    sincerely,

    your brother ‘in’ Love

  13. When someone really knows us and says they love us, we know it’s from the heart. It means so much more than the easy “love” from someone who doesn’t know us very well, if at all. And God, who knows our inmost being, loves us beyond measure.

  14. David Breakeronenine Carothers September 23, 2013 at 1:14 pm

    To know know know him
    Is to love love love him
    Just to see him smile
    Makes my life worthwhile

    Yes, just to know know know him
    Is to love love love him
    And I do
    (And I do and I)
    And I do
    (And I do and I)
    And I do
    (And I do and I da da da, da da da)

    I’ll be good to him
    I’ll make love to him
    Everyone says there’ll come a day
    When I’ll walk alongside of him

    Yes, just to know know know him
    Is to love love love him
    And I do
    (And I do and I)
    And I do
    (And I do and I)
    (And I do and I, and I do and I)

    Why can’t she see?
    How blind can she be?
    Someday she’ll see
    That she was meant just for me, oh oh yeah

    To know know know him
    Is to love love love him
    Just to see him smile
    Makes my life worthwhile

    Yes, just to know know know him
    Is to love love love him
    And I do
    (And I do and I, and I do and I)
    (And I do and I, and I do and I)

    Why can’t he see?
    How blind can he be?
    Someday he’ll see
    That he was meant just for me, oh oh yeah

    To know know know him
    Is to love love love him
    Just to see his smile
    Makes my life worthwhile

    Yes, just to know know know him
    Is to love love love him
    And I do
    (And I do and I)
    And I do, and I do, and I do
    (And I do and I do)

    Songwriters
    SPECTOR, PHIL
    And oldie but a goodie, this blog reminds me of the words in the song by the Teddy Bears.

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