I have been consistently blogging for the last couple of years. There are now almost two hundred posts archived here. Some of these posts were written to challenge old paradigms and open up needed conversations. As I’m sure you can imagine, some of these posts have stirred up a bit of controversy. I like to call some of the controversy the yes, but additions to the conversation. Sometimes the yes, buts are needed additions to the conversation, and other times they are simply reactions to deeply rooted belief systems that have been challenged. Sometimes the yes buts are a combination of both. I have a feeling this post may also stir up some yes, buts. With that said, I’d like to talk about the concept of soul ties in today’s post. I hope you will take a few minutes to consider what is being said here.
When I speak of soul I am speaking of the immaterial part of us that is not physical. I am not referring to our spirit, however. Our soul and spirit are quite distinct from one another. (There is much more that could be said about this, but that is another article for another day.) By soul, I am referring to our natural unseen life made up of our mind, will, and emotions. The human soul is quite powerful. The soul can be used for great good or great harm depending upon what it is tied to or under the influence of.
The Vehicle of Relationship
The human soul often gets a bad rap in religious circles. This is unfortunate because the human soul has been beautifully created by the Lord for a profound reason. Without our souls, we would be unable to relate to the world around us. Being able to relate is necessary for healthy relationships. The essence of our life is our relationship with God & others, and our soul (mind, will, emotions) is the primary vehicle with which we relate. Those who relate to others with all of their mind, will, and emotions are able to form very strong soul ties with others.
Negative Soul Ties
When many hear the term soul tie, often a negative image comes to mind. There is good reason for this. Sin and corruption reside in our fleshly nature, and the souls (mind, will, emotions) of most people have operated as a slave to the corrupt nature. The soul ties that many have experienced are simply deep relational connections that one’s soul made with another when their soul was under the influence of their flesh. For most of my life, including my religious life, my soul unknowingly operated under the influence of my flesh. This occurred until I had a revelation of an indwelling Word (Christ).
A major work of the Word of God (Christ) in our lives is the internal division that He brings between our soul and spirit (Hebrews 4:12). This distinction is vitally important as this is how we begin to see that which originates from our spirit (where Christ dwells), and that which emanates from our own mind, will, and emotions which has often operated under the influence of the flesh.
The cross of Christ broke the power of corruption & sin over our souls and has infused our spirit with His life and power. As the Word identifies and empowers our spirit, our spirit becomes dominate. The life of Christ that dwells in our spirit begins to flood into and renew our soul (mind, will, emotions). This is a glorious miracle because this is how our natural soul begins to fall under the influence of our spirit where Christ dwells, and not under the influence of the corrupt flesh. Instead of our mind, will, and emotions (soul) being a tool of the flesh as they once were, our soul now becomes a powerful tool of the spirit. The relational implications of this are astounding!
Beautiful Soul Ties
Those who have had unhealthy soul ties with others in the past may feel a bit uneasy when they hear me suggest that there is such a thing as beautiful soul ties. Many who have been a part of co-dependent relationships in the past have learned to put up strong boundaries in an attempt to protect themselves and others from unhealthy soul ties. Many times these boundaries are often needed and are an important step in helping others break free of unhealthy relationships. That’s not the end of the story, however. The Lord desires much more than simply helping us put up relational walls to keep us safe from deeply relating to others.
We have been made in the image and likeness of a deeply relational Lord. It would be good for us to remember that it is the scriptures themselves that describe our Lord as one who desires that we love Him with all of our soul. It is also vital for us to remember that our Lord is not a theoretical idea, but one who is incarnate among us. He fully dwells within brothers and sisters. Simply put, He has a very real body on the earth today. Christ must never be separated from His body. How we treat our brothers and sisters is how we treat our Lord Himself. To love Him with all of our soul is also to love the members of Christ (brothers & sisters) with all of our soul.
Central to the eternal purpose of God is the expression of Christ on the earth today. This is why our Lord is building communities made up of brothers and sisters in Christ who express His life and love through relational oneness and unity . This fully occurs in the deepest of relationships (John 17:20-25). We have been created for these relationships. Because of Christ in us, we now have been magnificently given all that we need to love with all of our soul. Brothers and sisters, that is truly good news!
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