Possession & Property Ownership
If you have ever owned something, you probably understand the concept of possession. People possess property. The greater the item’s perceived value, the greater the feelings of possession and fear of loss that one might feel. If you’ve ever heard a child tightly clutch their favorite toy and say “Mine!”, you’ve witnessed possession at its most basic level.
Property is not the only thing that people commonly try to possess. In most relationships, people commonly try to possess other people in the same mindset that one possesses property. When someone is possessive of another, know that envy and jealousy are at work.
Make no mistake about it, love is not envious, nor can love be jealous. Envy and jealousy are rooted in fear. Fear of loss. When one fears losing a relationship, envy and jealousy are the natural responses toward anything that seems like a threat to their possession or ownership of the other.
Christ’s love floods out all fear, however.
True indwelling love (Christ) is not dependent upon any condition to exist. Love simply is. Because love always has an object, love is preoccupied with being given away to the object of its affection. Love delights in being given away. His love is not threatened by anything else, because love inherently knows that love is superior to all else. Because love does not fear being overcome by anything less than love, love does not need to be envious or jealous.
True indwelling divine love (Christ) is unoffendable even in the face of the deepest rejection and betrayal. Rejection and betrayal cannot deter love from His mission. His love is relentless and has a longer shelf life than anything else not rooted in love. Eternity is love’s expiration date.
In a relationship, when one becomes envious, jealous, or possessive, know that fear is being expressed, not love. When one becomes possessive or controlling, they are attempting to protect themselves from the fear of loss that they dread in the relationship. In the end, it never works. Love, on the other hand, does not seek its own. Love does not try to protect itself from loss. While fear closes off to protect, Love remains open & vulnerable. Love keeps on loving.
Those who love are left wide open to the deepest wounds of rejection and betrayal. This is why those who love the most, suffer the most. In the end, however, love knows that love will prevail. For this reason, love does not surrender hope. Hope propels love to its destination. For the joy set before Him, He endured the scorn and brutality of the cross (Heb. 12:2).
The Jealousy of the Lord
Because scripture describes the Lord as being jealous, many have ascribed mankind’s fear based form of jealousy to the Lord. They have incorrectly assumed Him to be possessive and controlling. This is unfortunate and is exactly why knowing His heart is essential. Make no mistake about it, the Lord does not fear loss, nor is He threatened by anything less than love. God is love.
The more that I live by His indwelling love, however, the more I realize why He is described as being jealous. Love is zealous in its pursuit to satisfy the longings of love’s object. Love desires to be fully received. When one scorns and rejects love for something of lesser value that cannot satisfy, love becomes jealous.
Our Lord is zealous in His pursuit to satisfy our deepest longings. He wants to be fully received by us knowing that His love is the key to our satisfaction. It is for this reason that He has placed us in the midst of family (church) where His love fully dwells within the hearts of our brothers and sisters. This is where he has designed His love to be fully given and received in relationship (Eph 1:23). Know that your Lord is zealous (jealous) for this to become a reality in your life. This is what He is preparing you for.