Disagreements & Arguments Waste Your Life, But Seeking Understanding Expands It.

Disagreement is a great way to waste your life and energy either online or in person, and your arguments always say more about your energetic state of being than it does about the people or groups you disagree with.

While it’s perfectly natural to see things differently from other people, most of our arguments / disagreements are rooted in misunderstanding or having our belief structures challenged.

Regarding misunderstanding, we hear others through our own psychological grid of experience. Rarely are we hearing what the other is actually intending to communicate.

When we disagree, we often hear our own trauma being mirrored back to us. Then we react with a perception of what we think the other is attempting to communicate, not what the other is actually intending to communicate.

So, we are really disagreeing with our own flawed perceptions.

The other reason for disagreement may be because our own own beliefs are being challenged.

We all have beliefs, but I have discovered that growth is expedited by holding our beliefs lightly. The stronger you hold to your beliefs, the less inclined you will be to seek understanding.

Being a ‘seeker’ make you more open as a person, being a ‘believer’ makes you more closed. To grow in wisdom and competence, we need to be open, not closed.

Instead of disagreement or agreement, it’s best to seek understanding. This requires the asking of questions, even if those questions may challenge widely held beliefs by you or society in general.

In the seeking to understand, you will realize that there is very little worth actually disagreeing with in life.

P.S. If you’d like to watch a video breakdown of this pro tip in more detail, you can watch that video on my YouTube channel HERE.

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